Sometimes, a husband will proudly talk about how good he is to his to his wife by feeding me a list of reasons, excuses, and accomplishments to justify his not taking his wife to a marriage getaway/conference. Why do I need to be convinced of how good a husband someone is? I want to yell at these men, "Don't waste your time trying to convince me that you love your wife! Use that time and energy convincing HER that you love your wife!
"Selfish, prideful, childish men! You serve yourselves MORE than you serve your wives, then act surprised when one of you winds up in an affair, or someone declares a desire for a divorce. Your car looks and runs great because of the time you put into it. Your body is healthy because of the time you spend exercising. Your fishing skills, and ability to build a fantasy football team are the stuff of legends, but your marriage looks horrendous and is filled with frustration and pain because little to no time is invested in the relationship with your spouse and you serve yourselves rather than lead your wives through serving them! Instead of pursuing toys, hobbies, and money, set aside the materialism and pursue your wives!" Yes, I was still yelling at these men.
, follow, or get out of the way!
(Husbands, leading the way Christ led is the only right option.)